Alertness in Relationships

Take Time to Invest

Alertness is most important and most difficult when we are around those closest to us. Sadly, the constant presence of family members can condition us to ignore them. However, we communicate our esteem for others by the consideration we show them when we are busy with other projects.

Beware of Danger

Numerous hazards confront us daily, but we do not think about them as long as their potential is not realized. Alertness recognizes dangers and helps to prevent hazardous situations. Parents can avoid storing kitchen knives or household chemicals in areas where small children play. When someone is allergic to dust, others show alert consideration by keeping dusty objects out of the house.

Be Aware of Needs

This awareness also extends to needs that are not communicated. When others show signs of hurt or discouragement, we may need to ask gentle, probing questions, or we may need to give them time to sort out their feelings. Whatever the case, we must be alert to both verbal and nonverbal expressions of needs.

When we practice this awareness of other people, our attitudes make the difference between honest concern and nosy condescension. A friend focuses on the other person and his or her interests, not on gathering information, nagging, or changing the other person’s behavior.

Practical Applications of Alertness

• Consider what your activities and appearance communicate. Realize that certain activities could weaken others’ trust.
• Look for and praise the ways family members display good character.
• Do not allow otherwise harmless activities to become so consuming that they displace the important priorities in your life.
• Use preventative maintenance with cars, household appliances, and personal health.